Making Firm the Foundations

For the prayers of parents make firm the foundations of houses.

Wedding Service of the Holy Orthodox Christian Church

This prayer best describes my feeling towards a man who gave me not only his daughter to wed but a firm foundation of prayer and life in the Church. This picture from our wedding contains my father, my father-in-law (that most antiseptic of English terms for relations), and me embracing in a “cord of three strands that cannot easily be broken.” And now that one of us lives on the other side of this vale of tears, I proclaim with the Divine Apostle that the cord remains unbroken.

For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons,[a] neither the present nor the future, nor any powers,  neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Romans 8:38-39

Our father and grandfather has passed on to eternity and we his children, grandchildren and friends will never be the same as a result of his love and care for us. The prayer at the end of the Divine Liturgy says, “Sanctify those who love the beauty of Thy house.” Dyeda (Russian for little grandfather) was a builder and contractor not merely satisfied with caring for his own. When he came into faith in the Lord Jesus, he took this prayer as a command. He loved the beauty of the Lord’s house and bent all of his energies and resources towards the restoration of that house in post-Communist Russia. By God’s grace, he helped restore no less than two monasteries and eight churches to their pre-Revolutionary glory making a place again for believers to turn and converse with their Creator.

And now we pray with those believers memory eternal on the soul of our Dyedushka. And may the souls of all the faithfully departed through the mercy of Christ our Savior rest in peace! Вечная Память (Vechnaya Pamyat)

6 thoughts on “Making Firm the Foundations

  1. So lovely. Although we could barely converse because of the language barrier, I always appreciated that Victor was a loving, gentle man. I felt such peace when I was around him. We often shared “our pew” at church; it was so special to observe his loving behavior toward all of your children as they flitted back and forth to him and Paraskeva.

    We so wanted to attend his funeral to express our regret in losing such a fine man, but we are having to be so careful because of our COVID concerns. Although we were not present, we grieved in the knowledge that your family is suffering at this time. Please convey our condolences and prayers to Paraskeva, Dn Andrey, Anna and all of your Friar family. We love you all so very much.

  2. May his memory be eternal! And God’s blessings on your family in this time of your loss. I am very interested in learning more about the holy places he restored. I remember you mentioned it the last time you visited us. The Lake Baikal magnet is still on our fridge and I think of you all when I see it.

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